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Project 52 | TWENTY

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I have not been very lovely to live with lately. I’ve had a lot on my mind and not a lot of my hubby around and I have been taking my sleep deprivation & struggles with my currently exhausting not-a-second-for-myself schedule out on him. It came to a head this week. & well. I’m glad it’s over.

What I thought was just six years of this brutal residency is going to be longer. One day last fall, I saw it in his eyes. He was in love. He found IT. That thing you love to do that you will do anything to do forever. & I knew this was coming. So I am trying to wrap my head around our future. In the end it’s going to be nine years of this brutal schedule. Most people only see the glitz and glam–like Heather’s amazing life on the RHOC. But there is so much more. So much more struggle to get to that final destination. Thousands of days training. Hundreds of nights at the hospital. Huge, life and death decisions that never, ever get left behind at work. It’s emotionally and physically exhausting work that affects our whole family. And, icing on the cake: this extends our military commitment to 2029.

Deep Breaths.

I can do this.

We can do this.

Hopefully, with grace.

& lots, and lots of lattes.

(p.s. cute crabby card by Penelope’s Press)


& Project 52 is off to a very collaborative start! If you’d like to join in–it’s not too late. Here’s everything you need to know about

my 2012 Project 52.

& those of you who are linking up (please let me know if you need to be edited/added!):

Adventures in MommyhoodAubrey My LoveBlossoms & VintageBugs & Boo-Boos Candice Craves Caynay PhotographyChristina’s Project 52 Chronicles of KTClaire Jane The Crain’s Nest Dana Moran Photography The Daulton Dabbler Englexas Everything Eatherton Fairy Wings & Dinosaurs Finding Joy Firecracker MamaFreckled PinkFrom Stanwood to Seoul Gin & Juice Boxes Heather Marie PortraitsIci & LaIt’s a Graham LifeIt’s a Strange & Lovely RideKate L Photography Keeping up with the Carters Kim Percival PhotographyLiving for Love Lizzi Photography Mahina & Lucas Mama Bethany McLain Padilla Photography Mist Moments Memories by Mere Moments & Impressions The Mommyhood Memos Moo with Me Moxie Made My Tot TravelsNavigating the MothershipNicole Dina PhotographyOh the Places We’ll GoOur Baby Behr Our Splendid Little Life Phreckle Face Photography Quiet FootstepsRachel Gray PhotographyThe Robersons Shades of Bliss Shutter Mama BlogSide of the TableSimply Us Snaps of Our LifeSquamish Baby The Todd’s We Aren’t Scared of SugarWe’re Better Together Wicked KateWokabout Z as in Zebra

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