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Helloo!! When it rains it pours. Suddenly flooded with fun opportunities, I have been busy, busy. In a really great way!

So you know I love books. If you read this blog regularly, you have seen image after image of me and my kids with books. It’s a small obsession of ours and we take reading very seriously around here. Our weekly trips to the library consist of picking 30-40 books to read, in addition to the titles we own, so I have been able to enjoy quite a bit of what is out there & see what really sticks with my kids.

One of the publishers we LOVE is Usborne. I always bought the activity books & a few titles from B&N but I always wanted more than I could find locally. I had NO idea they had consultants, who offered the entire collection, until recently. & after attending a totally online Facebook party that was run in the most beautiful way–I knew I had to be a part of it. Mostly, to build my own library up, but also to help share our favorites with friends. I never, ever thought I would sign up for something like this (because I do have a business to run!!)…but I did. Because books are EVERYTHING. & these books are something special. The more kids who have awesome books, the better. & they absolutely, completely saved me on my 2000 mile road trip with my kids last week. Seriously.


A couple weeks ago I hosted my kick off Book Bash. & while I will not be making this a big thing (I envision a Holiday & Summer online Book Bash) what I would like is to make myself a resource for YOU, to help you find the best books for your children that meet them at their reading level as they grow. My kick off with my friends was so fun & I got such amazing feedback–especially as the books arrived in homes around the country–that I wanted to bring it here. So I am hosting a second Usborne Holiday Book Bash just for my blog readers, this week!

SO…Please join me on Wednesday December 9th at 8:30pm CST for a fast and fun online party, completely on Facebook! I will be continuing to kick off my partnership with Usborne Books & More, publisher of many of our long time FAVORITE books (I couldn’t fit them all on the stack in the picture…). I cannot wait to share some of our tried & true, most loved titles with you—just in time for holiday travel & gifting! There’s no better gift than something wonderful to READ on Christmas morning!!

Usborne Books is the 2014 Children’s Publisher of the Year, offering over 1700 books for babies through young adult.

This is the perfect excuse to stock up on gifts and fun activities that keep kids entertained and boost brain power in the process! We’ll explore some best-sellers, newly released titles, and recommendations personalized to YOU and your families. Books start at $5. I thought about sharing some here…but I am going to save all the good stuff for the night of the Book Bash. You can catch up the following day if you miss the event. December 10th will be the last day to order to ensure Christmas Delivery–so if you are looking for something last minute–I’ve got you covered! & I will be doing some fun things in my personal Usborne Book-tique year round to keep you sane and your libraries fresh.

There will also be prize drawings during the book bash, so make sure to RSVP right away to stay in the loop on opportunities to earn raffle tickets! (Click GOING on Shawna’s Usborne Holiday Book Bash event page so you don’t miss out!) Looking forward to “seeing” you online soon! :) Screen Shot 2015-12-06 at 10.24.56 PM

  • Mary - Ok, I NEED the “See Inside Trains” book. My boy would LOVE that!!ReplyCancel

  • Katie - I feel so validated :) I just signed up to be a consultant – only to get all these awesome books at a discount…we homeschool and need them!!!ReplyCancel

  • Ashley - Hi Shawna,

    I am so excited that you are back to blogging! You have helped me through many mommy issues ever since 2012! I finally pursued my passion of writing my own children’s book, How to Sell Your Sister for Fun and Profit. The book should be ready by the end of January. Would you like me to send you a complimentary copy? Please feel free to email me. I was having a hard time tracking down your info :)ReplyCancel

  • Lisa - Do you have a good library book tracking/management system at home you can share? We always come home with a ton of great books & then we enjoy them all around the house & then the morning they are due back I find myself frantically searching every room in the house and the car for all the books. It’s gotten so bad, I have developed an aversion to the library & all the stress it inevitably causes!ReplyCancel

When we moved into this rental, our very first rental, I took seriously every word of The Nesting Place and made it home, ASAP. We knew we were only here temporarily, so I went crazy when we first moved in. Within two months, my house was DONE. I mean, nothing left to hang & no wall left to paint (so grateful for a landlord who said “go for it!” when I offered to repaint the whole thing…!). It was so weird. I had planned and planned and gathered all my supplies and decor to make this as seamless as possible. & since we knew this was just a short season in our lives, there was no need for tweaking & I was certainly not going to buy any furniture or much decor to make this place “just right.” What we had worked and worked pretty well. But I was DONE. I was usually never done. But here I was. There was nothing left to decorate.

& then I stopped creating in the way I am used to. It’s taken me a good year to realize how much of myself I lost during that dark year, but now that I am resurfacing, I can see how I redirected my energy. Reading Big Magic opened my eyes to just that. My creativity was never dormant. It was still alive. I had just used it all to create my Paleo-ish kitchen. Food got all my energy. & back then, that was ok. I had something new to learn about and focus on.

But as I started to get the hang of the whole Paleo thing & learn my shortcuts and favorites, I yearned for more.

& at the very time I was reading pg 37 in Big Magic, the part on saying yes or no to creative inspiration & what happens when you choose one or the other, I was presented with a big opportunity. A friend from school who had been to my home, and raved about it, asked me to help her decorate hers. Like, she wanted to hire me to do it.

Woah, woah, woah. This was all floating in my head and exactly what I envisioned when I ramped things back up again when we moved back to Texas, next Summer. But I hadn’t finalized my business plan or my process or built my spreadsheets and I have not yet wrapped up my stylebabyLOG business (psst! back in stock in a couple weeks!!) and…and…and…

…I said yes.

So here I sit, a couple weeks into the largest design project I have been a part of, on the largest budget I have ever been able to play with and it is SO MUCH FUN. I have learned so much along the way, but mostly, that this is exactly what I need to be doing right now. I LOVE making a house a home. I LOVE curating pretties for a room. & I LOVE making a highly functional space, that is easy on the eyes. Pretty & practical. Business and creativity. Everything I love all wrapped up into one job. That doesn’t feel like a job.

You guys. I think this is IT.

So I thought I would finally share Caroline’s room, to bring some decor back here. It’s been awhile. :) When we left her beautiful nursery, she asked me specifically for a Rainbow Room. As we narrowed down the specifics, and colors, she asked for one wall “the color of Elsa’s cape.” She’s since declared herself “totally over princesses” and purged her room of anything related to Frozen, but the wall is still there. Not the color I would have chosen (turquoise! coral!) but it is her room. & I wanted her to feel ownership over her space. So alas…welcome to Caroline’s Rainbow Room. This is quite possibly the cleanest it’s ever been. Don’t be fooled…this girl is a tornado and she can’t keep a room clean for more than five minutes. She is a maker and her hands are in projects all over the place. You can see them all over her colorful walls! Just the way she likes them. :)


I think the biggest thing I learned about decorating a “rainbow room” is to keep the rainbow in the accessories. Everything major is neutral. All you need is little pops of color!


I insist both my kiddos have my favorite DIY bookshelves for their books. I love that they can see all the titles. If you are not into DIY-ing them, you can always get a ledge from Ikea!


Oh, this QUILT!! I saved up all of Caroline’s special favorite baby clothes and found the perfect keepsake. Each strip of fabric on this quilt came from an outfit, sleeper, blanket and even her beloved playmat that she used as a baby! It is so, so special to me.


Have a daddy that works a lot? Yeah. We do too. Most days she doesn’t get to see him. So they write notes. This is just a frame with some scrapbook paper cut to fit behind it. Glass works awesome with dry erase markers. & pom poms make great erasers.

& below, that’s a thumb tack (decorative furniture nail, to be exact), a ribbon & some clothespins for the most recent art. Lifesaver.


I learned the hard way that simple art supplies create the best work. One kind of marker. One kind of paper. The mess stays a bit more contained. You’re welcome.


styleberry_decorating_8 For her second birthday, I painted and scrapbook paper-wallpapered this gorgeous dollhouse. I found it on sale on one of those awesome GILT sales & it is still so well loved. We even expanded to the basement, recently. We LOVE it. & they have awesome customer service. We learned this when this was set on the opposite side of the dresser and she accidentally slammed the door shut on the open dollhouse and it was a catastrophe. Like, major breakdown. But we all survived. Thanks to PlanToys and their excellent replacement service!!!
styleberry_decorating_07 & some of the specifics that I know you’ll ask about:

  • Duvet: Pottery Barn Teen
  • Bed: Pottery Barn Teen Outlet
  • Dream Colorfully: Pottery Barn Teen Outlet
  • Herringbone Quilt (it’s made out of her baby clothes!) & Custom Name Pillow: Anna Joy French
  • Flower LED Lights: Ikea
  • Wall Shelves: DIY
  • Victorian Dollhouse: PlanToys
  • Desk stool: Target

The rest of the fun treasures have come from years of collecting from all over. :)  & I cannot find the paint chips for her room. If you really want them, I will dig. But I am not sure I’ll ever use either of these colors again…so I tossed them! ;)

& Lastly, because books are everything (!!), the chapter book series on her dresser is her current favorite, Magic Treehouse. It’s a really great chapter book for young readers that covers a vast array of Non Fiction topics, but is a fictional series. We could not possibly love it more! She’s on book 46, and is so sad to be almost done. I highly recommend! We got a great deal on ours through Scholastic. We also love the thorough non fiction Fact Trackers that accompany the series, that provides a deeper look into some of the subject matter. Definitely her favorite books, so far!


  • Angie - This room is adorable! I love everything you’ve done and all the little details make it so special. One of my favorites is the quilt you made from special baby clothes.. LOVE that idea! We are currently building our home and I cannot wait to decorate each of my girl’s rooms.. Thank you for the inspiration, and I’m so glad you’re BACK! :)ReplyCancel

  • Louisa - What a gorgeous room! You definitely have quite a talent for putting a room together! Love all the small details and I am itching to steal a few for my little girl!ReplyCancel

  • Mahina - I am obsessed with her dollhouse! Did you paint and wallpaper it? If so how did you do it?ReplyCancel

  • Amber Berkoski - I cannot wait to see your interior decorating work!ReplyCancel

  • Candice - What a beautiful space! Would you consider putting some things from your kids Christmas list on your Amazon link? I have kids about the same age as yours and you always have the best ideas! Happy Holidays :)ReplyCancel

  • Lana - First time I’ve been to your blog (linked from Baked Bree) and I am smitten! My children are now having children, but you had me at your reference to BIG MAGIC!

    I attended a writer’s workshop with Elizabeth Gilbert. Not to learn how to become a writer, but to find out how to tap into my creativity now that I have an empty nest and have reached a “certain age.” All my adult life has been spent raising children and I know there’s more to life than working and paying bills.

    I’m so glad you realized that your creativity was just redirected for a time and that you are back to designing. You are obviously very gifted!ReplyCancel

  • Sara - Very excited to see how you move forward with the decorating. We’re in a rental now too for a bit and I’ve just started reading the The Nesting Place to get me inspired.
    My son LOVES The Magic Treehouse as well. He either borrows from the library or we have a lot of them downloaded from Audible on an old iPod of mine.
    So, did you make the quilt yourself or did you give your fabrics & pattern to someone else to sew for you? I’ve saved a lot of my son’s clothes and had the idea to do something similar with them, but I’m not confident I would be happy with the outcome if I tried sewing it myself.ReplyCancel

  • Sara - Oops! Meant to say another favorite series of my sons is the Boxcar Children.ReplyCancel

  • Tammy - Shawna, I’m late to the party and a longtime follower, but so happy you are back! I LOVE everything about this room so much! It’s so personal and fun without being tacky or cluttered with stuff just because it matches. It’s meaningful and sweet. I’d hire you to do my whole house in a hot second if you could just move to Cinci, lol! I’m so excited for these new design opportunities you are embarking on and cannot wait to follow along. Anyway, welcome back!ReplyCancel

  • Valery - Oh my goodness I love your style! I love the gallery wall. Someone you know (my old boss), Brandon (from Colorado lol) introduced me to your blog a few months ago and I pretty much read it all! Love it! Keep posting!ReplyCancel

  • Almost over. » styleberry BLOG - […] months ago I shared with you my big decision to say YES to a big Interior Styling project and since then, life has looked a bit different. This blog has […]ReplyCancel

It was the dead of winter. The holidays had passed & I was left with the January gloom. But this year, it was more than my usual post-holiday blues. My house no longer glowed from the Christmas lights and I was staying up late, not accomplishing much and living on lattes. Granted, this has been a really rough couple of years on our family, as anyone in their eighth year of a surgical residency/fellowship training experience will tell you, but something more was going on. & I was determined to get to the bottom of it.

I started looking at my life and what I could change. Why was I feeling so run-down? How could I make some small changes to feel better? Where could I find knowledge I could trust? How could I even find the time and energy to make my life better right now, as we’re going through one of the toughest seasons of our life as a family?

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I am a one woman show around here, and my kids deserved a better me. It was scary & felt like a lot of work to make some of the changes I had in mind. But it was time. I could not live like this any more. Latte to latte. Crashing in between. Flopping into bed feeling unaccomplished at night, then beyond irritated to be woken up in the morning by a child that really, just wanted a hug. Or a granola bar. Either seemed annoying at a pre-dawn hour, when I had stayed up too late. I was not a pleasure to be around and I needed something to change in a really big way.

The first change, as I talked about before, was my sleep overhaul. I gave up my beloved nightowl habits and started getting up early. It started with a six am wakeup and every week, I pushed that up fifteen minutes. It took some tinkering with, but I learned that for whatever reason, my body’s rhythm doesn’t like an alarm in the 5am hour. I can’t get out of bed. But 4ish? That’s my sweet spot. I get up, without engaging with my phone, and drink my 24oz cup of (sometimes lemon) water while I am getting ready. My reward is my cup of coffee (a 6oz pour-over style is all it takes anymore!) & I am ready to do what I need to before my early riser is up to join me.

These days I am a 4:30am kind of gal, who is in bed by 9:30. I know, I know. I would have laughed at myself so hard a couple of years ago. But seriously. Having quiet time to myself (and that cup of coffee!) before my kids get up has been life changing. It also provided me with the time to read. To learn. & to understand why my brain was feeling so foggy. It may seem insignificant, but this sleep change really has been instrumental to my “lifestyle overhaul” if you want to call it that. It’s when I carved out the time to learn.

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I am not going to walk you through the true “why” of a Gluten Free or Dairy Free Paleo-ish diet. I am not an expert. I have taken the time to read a lot, from sources I have deemed trustworthy. Together, they have opened up my eyes to nutrition in a way I was never open to before. Forget fads, forget the word “diet.” Healthy living is really a lifestyle, in my opinion. & I wanted to understand the WHY before I could dive into the HOW. Here’s what I read–some are books I checked out at the library & some are great articles that you can read now:

  • Wheat Belly–for a fascinating understanding of what wheat does to your body, and an explanation of the inflammation response that can be so problematic. “Inflammation” is a buzz word amongst everything I read–basically I aim to consume foods that decrease or don’t increase inflammation. This book describes, on a very deep level, how the new version of wheat we consume today, causes inflammation.
  • It Starts with Food–by the creators of the Whole30 program, which is an elimination diet that helps you determine what foods make you feel good/bad. I have not done Whole30, but I do try to eat in a way that closely mimics the Whole30 guidelines. An important quote that I LOVED from this book was “The food you eat either makes you more healthy, or less healthy. Those are your options.” and that has been a real factor in my daily food decision making.
  • Why I am a Pegan–or Paleo Vegan–& Why You Should Be Too! by Dr. Mark Hyman— This is SUCH a great article, packed with links to other articles to help understand some of the scientific findings behind why considering food as medicine is so important. I spent a lot of time on his site, reading his articles.
  • How Soy Can Kill You and Save Your Life by Dr. Mark Hyman–a really balanced overview of the claims and data. I choose not to eat much soy, if any at all.
  • Got Proof? Lack of Evidence for Milk’s Benefits by Dr. Mark Hyman–a great synopsis about recent data on dairy consumption. He has several other articles on his site on the topic worth reading.
  • 3 Important Reasons to Give Up Gluten if You Have an Autoimmune Disease by Amy Myers— A great overview. Dr. Myers has so much great information on her website. I gathered a LOT of my information from her thorough explanations.
  • 4 Steps to Recover from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome by Dr. Amy Myers–I like how this article is organized. She is all about autoimmune disease and gut health, and how to fix them both!
  • Calcium, Vitamin D & the Milk Myth by Dr. Christine Maren–Christine is one of my dear friends, and THE person who I credit for all of my dietary changes. She shares the most informative articles on her Facebook feed and her blog has taught me so much about all the things I care about, nutritionally. She also has a passion for childhood nutrition, which is a major bonus for us health nut moms!!
  • Wheat and Endometriosis–A super fascinating spinoff hypothesis for those of us who deal with monthly flaring of Endo symptoms. My experience below!

So…NOW WHAT. WTF do I eat?! Is that what you are thinking? Because that is pretty much how I felt. I shouldn’t eat bread and pasta and crackers or peanut butter and milk and cheese and yogurt and and and…the list seemed to go on. Um. That’s mostly, with some added meat/vegetables, all I ate. So whaaaaaat do I do?

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There was a quote in one of the food documentaries that I watched that encouraged people to make food changes with this mindset: “Instead of focusing on what you are cutting out, just focus on the really amazing things that you are adding in.” Then it went on to say that eventually you’d grow to like the new, healthier things so much that they would naturally take the place of the junk, and you wouldn’t even want it anymore.

& I believe that to be absolutely true, based on my experience.

The very first thing I did after I decided that I was going to make the big lifestyle change, was get two new cookbooks. For the first month, I ditched every single recipe in my evernote folder and ONLY cooked out of:

What this did was introduce me to absolutely delicious new foods, and in the process, cut out all dairy, gluten and sugar, because the recipes I was using were all “safe” and free from the ingredients I was trying to avoid. These two books also walked me through new ingredients to me–like coconut sugar, arrowroot powder and coconut aminos. Danielle Walker is a gifted chef, educator and photographer, so while the books are filled with BEAUTIFUL & inspiring images, They are also full of really helpful explanations of all the “new foods” that replace the old staples. My daily menu looked a little like this: Eggs for breakfast, leftovers or a meat + vegetable for lunch, dinner was a new recipe from the book.

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I gutted my fridge and pantry and sought to only buy “compliant” foods. This was going to be a huge experiment and I didn’t want to derail my results by accidentally eating something that included the ingredients I didn’t want to have anymore. I snacked on GF crackers and avocado. I carried nuts everywhere I went. I started forcing my body to live off of healthy fats, instead of so many grains.

A HUGE change for me was when I ditched my 2x/day lattes and forced myself to drink my coffee black, with a tiny splash of cream to start. Eventually I weaned off coffee completely, but I decided that I do just really, really love coffee. So once I didn’t need it anymore, I added it in a tiny bit at a time to get to a comfortable amount, daily. It’s always been my vice, but this was a cleaner version. Philz Silken Splendor, black, is my favorite!

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Over time I have added in recipes from trusted blogs like:

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Well. A lot happened. & it’s really, really wonderful to be on the other side of this lifestyle experiment. A friend of mine was recently diagnosed with Celiac Disease and she was devastated. I swore to her, up and down, that once she gets through the really hard couple of weeks of eliminating all the gluten, and emotionally accepting the fact that all those foods associated with holidays and big events are no longer part of her life, that she would not want any of the foods that trigger her symptoms because she would feel so good. I so strongly believe this to be true. I do not, for a second, miss the bread and pasta and milk that I used to consume, ever. It plain and simply, made me feel like shit. & I didn’t know I could fix it until I did. I have undergone testing, and while I do not have Celiac Disease, there is no doubt that I have a sensitivity to Gluten. & once you start really learning about what it does to the body, I think it would be safe to say it would be a good thing for most people to avoid it in its current state.

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As far as specific changes I have seen:

  • Brain Fog– mine disappeared. Like, I could finally think clearly all day. That was a VERY real symptom for me and was very present in the hour or two after I ate or drank a latte. Wheat Belly explains this phenomenon (lack of blood sugar stabilization, is the short answer). There is even a book, that I have yet to read, called Grain Brain. I am SO glad it’s gone–and is one of the first symptoms that returns if I consume something with wheat in it now.
  • Bloating–every night before I went to bed I used to look at my distended belly and wonder where the flat one I had in the morning had gone. Well. That problem is certainly not a problem anymore. Cutting gluten has resulted in pretty much no more bloating for me–all day long!
  • No Food Cravings-Since I don’t have the glycemic swings that I used to, I don’t crave much. Certainly not sweets. I will say, that I do sometimes crave vegetables though! That’s a new one.
  • Stable weight & endurance-I never started this to lose weight. I am at a good place in that department, and I exercise regularly. I used to run out of steam during my workouts and I have found that my endurance has improved since the change in nutrition. I don’t count calories and I don’t really measure portions. I eat what I eat, move a lot and everything stays pretty much the same, except I keep getting stronger. :)
  • Endometriosis-This was a shocker for me & something I didn’t read about until I was several months into this lifestyle change and noticed a marked reduction in my monthly Endometriosis symptoms. The cramping wasn’t as bad and my periods lightened up a bit. It was awesome. Since I gave up Gluten and most Dairy at the same time, I am not sure which to attribute the changes to, but I don’t want to go back to the other side!! It’s certainly worth an experiment if you suffer from the monthly endo pain that just plain sucks.
  • Tastebuds-Mine have changed. Big time. Some of the things I used to enjoy, I just don’t anymore. There isn’t a drink at Starbucks, even the coconut milk version, that I enjoy. I can taste the wheat in things that used to taste good to me if I choose to have a bite here and there. Even some fruit is too sweet for me these days. It just proved to me how much our bodies adapt to what we feed them. When sweet potatoes are enough, sugar that is often loaded on top, tastes awful. I really believe we can teach our bodies to love food in its natural state–we’ve just been consuming it in certain ways for so long that those ways, sweetened and artificially flavored, become the norm. But they don’t have to be!

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I like to call the way I run my kitchen “Paleo-ish” for a specific reason. Strict rules are hard to follow. I like some things in moderation. & my whole family is from Wisconsin…which means that I really happen to like cheese. &…we like the occasional ice cream or donut date as a family. So I have added back in foods here and there to balance it all out so it doesn’t feel so rigid. I do my best to not eat gluten and I don’t drink milk, but we have balance. Sometimes, I’ll have a little bite of something that breaks all the rules. My kids still eat whole grain crackers & bread. My husband still insists on having real milk in his hot cocoa, despite my claims that cashew milk tastes just as good. & we still use a little organic raw sugar in our favorite cookies. But mostly, we eat really, really healthy. Do my kids always love it? No. But I make them take a “no thank you bite” so maybe, a little at a time, they can learn to love the things I do.

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One of my favorite reads, recommended by my sister in law Kim (who also happens to have a business that helps overwhelmed women create a new normal & transform their lives through simple food & lifestyle changes,) is The Plantpower Way. They have a really gentle approach to nutrition that celebrates real food in a beautiful way. & what I really appreciate is the encouragement of balance. I don’t think anyone can argue that our goal should be to add as many plants as we can to our diet. That seems like a no brainer. My family adds meats and nuts and seeds, too. & sometimes, cheese. & occasionally ice cream and donuts. I don’t want to paint an inaccurate picture of our life. But we do our best, and learn as much as we can, and make the choices we do with the knowledge we believe to be true and valuable.

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As we start to see powerhouse medical programs like The Cleveland Clinic roll out new ventures like The Center for Functional Medicine, I think there’s going to be more focus on preventative care that includes nutrition as a core element of treatment for disease. My husband, who is a cardiac surgeon, sees the debilitating effects of heart disease on a daily basis. He often shares his frustration about the lack of heart disease prevention resources/education & desire for patients to take their health seriously. The gap between doctors and food seems to finally be getting some attention as we see more Integrative and Functional Medicine physicians seek certification and produce data to help those of us who really care about using food as medicine to prevent whatever we can. But it does take discipline and a lot of effort, in a world that often makes it really, really hard to eat good food.

So that’s when I rely on my favorite Maya Angelou quote to sum it all up:

Do the best you can until you know better. When you know better, DO better.

Do you have a favorite Paleo/Vegan/GF recipe?? Let’s get a thread going! I’d love some new meal inspiration! :)


  • Leigh K - So great to hear such a success story. My husband and I have read Eat To Live after it was recommended by his cardiologist. We’ve had 2 false starts with switching our eating habits- I bookmarked some of your links to check out. It really is a large commitment and shift in food thinking and I just haven’t figured out how to do it for weeknight meals with 2 little kids.ReplyCancel

  • Jenn - Thank you so much for sharing your experience with this! I did a whole 30 earlier this year and loved it, but had a really hard time making a moderate transition back into “normal” eating- for me, it’s a slippery slope once I start adding sugars back in. That being said, you certainly can’t argue the benefits of alleviating them. Given that you’ve been doing this for a while now, can I ask if/how it affected your grocery budget? Do you find it grew significantly?ReplyCancel

  • Marci - Hi Shawna! I’ve never commented on your blog but wanted to say I love to see that you are back, and love love that you wrote this! We have, in the last year, started eating Paleo-ish and I want to shout it from the rooftops- I won’t ever go back. As a mom of three little kids, it is essential that I have a lot of energy, and this way of living/eating gives me that. I agree with every single thing you say above- I absolutely adore Against all grain- her cookbooks are the best cookbooks I have ever used and so flavorful and diverse. Anyways, I loved seeing that you have found this way of living too!ReplyCancel

  • -shawna- - Jenn, I think that if I look at the big picture, we are coming out even. Eating this way means that I don’t buy much in packages–I buy local, sustainable, organic meats/fruits/veggies when possible. So while that can feel expensive, I am truly not that hungry or craving the junk that eats your budget. We also hardly ever eat out–because I really don’t care for most of the offerings at a restaurant. I can make it better & cheaper myself. We may eat out once a month, maybe, so that is also huge. I no longer spend any money at starbucks, so I get that back in the budget, too. No “treats” when I am out and hungry. My groceries are pretty much my entire food expense–nothing in a restaurant. & when you look at overall health costs–I swear real food consumption keeps you out of the doctor’s office. :)ReplyCancel

  • Lea - I’ve been waiting for this post and loved reading it. Thank you for the lengthy post and all the information you provided. I, also use the same cookbooks that you have mentioned, but not exclusively at this time.

    We love this soup, my 2.5 yr old loves it too.

  • Kris - Hi Shawna,

    I feel compelled to tell you the books and sources you are relying on for your information is poor, profit driven, and contradictory to science. Feel free to email me if you want more information, but here is a link to get you started:

    I have no problem if people want to go Paleo/Gluten free simply because they enjoy the recipes. But the health benefits to these diets are no more than any healthy, well rounded diet unless you have Celiacs or true food allergies to the removed foods. In fact, if you don’t have a medical necessity to removing specific foods but you go ahead and avoid them because it’s a fad, your body can become intolerant of them down the road when you realize you want to reintroduce them. People mistake these reactions as their “proof” they have some sort of intolerance, but they are, in fact, typical. For example, science has shown there is no such thing as gluten intolerance. You either have a true allergy, Celiacs, or no reaction. And if you take anything out of your body long enough, you need time to get it acclimated again once it is reintroduced.

    My advice is to look beyond the people selling books (since they have an ulterior motive) and dig into the actual research with the real experts (such as contacts from a food science program at a research university).

    Good luck,

    • -shawna- - Kris, I hesitate to publish your comment because I am very sensitive to the tone of my blog, and that includes the comment section. Anyone who speaks in absolutes rubs me the wrong way, your comment included. I am publishing it because I think it warrants a discussion. As I said, I am not an expert and I have chosen to follow science that I believe to be valid and trustworthy. I am not sure what your credentials are that lead you to be so strong in your conviction, maybe you can elaborate? I called upon Dr. Maren, a practicing Functional Medicine Physician who is dedicating her life to this data, to take a look at what you shared. You can read what she has to say below. Books with this data are often the only reason we (the general public) learn anything about it. So to exclude anything in a book, because it earns someone a paycheck, doesn’t sit well with me. Researchers can certainly hold bias and work with ulterior motives, too. It’s hard to ever know who to trust, but we do the best we can. I wish you the best in your fact finding mission, and will close this discussion by respectfully disagreeing with you.ReplyCancel

  • Emily W. - Wow, we’ve been on similar journeys for very different reasons. I had complications after delivering our second child this summer, which western medicine completely failed to treat. Eastern medicine, though, with an emphasis on diet has really helped.

    To Shawna’s point, making changes this big require commitment and it’s easier to dig in and make the commitment when you know things cannot go on as they are for one more moment. It doesn’t work as well if you only kinda want it.

    Nicely done, Shawna! The one thing I’ll add to your list is the Vitamix. We purchased one and really enjoy it. We also really love the huge cookbook that came with it.ReplyCancel

  • Lindsay - Thank you for writing this!! I just recently went through blood work and tested for having a severe wheat intolerance. It’s changing the way I eat now and forever. I’ve dabbled with whole30 before but am not as strict anymore. I can’t wait to read wheat belly and grain brain. For now I’m still eating quinoa and brown rice since I don’t have an intolerance to that, but can’t wait to get rid of that too. Besides crackers, what snacks do you feed your babes for a normal week? I feel like I keep throwing them Annie’s crackers like I’m doing them a solid but yet I still know better and that I can do better. This article couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you once again for your inspiring post :)ReplyCancel

  • Brooke - I am so pumped up by this. I’m in a huge slump… Life….work… Family… It’s all so overwhelming right now and I have a feeling it’s mostly because I’m not taking care of myself and my health. Eating like crap… No time to exercise. Too much going on. Thanks for the insights and encouragement. Love your thoughtful approach to life!ReplyCancel

  • Christine Maren - Shawna, first of all… so glad you are back to blogging! You are an honest and talented mommy, writer, creative, cook, etc… and thank you for the mention! I love that we can learn from each other.

    I can’t help but respond to the comment from Kris. Unfortunately, food allergies and sensitivities are more common than ever. There is no definitive evidence as to why (plenty of theory, though), but there is no question that they are more prevalent. There is CDC data on this, but I think it’s pretty obvious (formal data or not)… you can’t even send your kid to school w a peanut butter sandwich anymore.

    Gluten sensitivity – whether that is celiac or non celiac gluten sensitivity (NCGS) – is very real. Like food allergies, it is not a fad. There has been a distinct change in our immune system and the way we are reacting to otherwise benign substances.

    Your reader says “science has shown there is no such thing as gluten intolerance. You either have a true allergy, Celiacs, or no reaction.” That is, in fact, totally untrue. Celiac is an autoimmune reaction. NCGS is not. The umbrella term is now gluten related disorders. There is a lot of literature on this. The scientist Alesio Fassano has done a lot of research in this area!po=0.510204

    All of that being said, a lot of people benefit from a Paleo style diet because it eliminates some common allergens – like dairy and wheat – which, along with sugar, can be very inflammatory to the many people who are sensitive. There is no one right diet for everyone, and I don’t think that *everyone* should avoid gluten. But there are A LOT of people who should (especially if they have an autoimmune disease).

    Thanks again!ReplyCancel

  • Kelly - For those readers out there who are looking for answers give this a try and don’t feel better there could be another reason. Gluten and dairy aren’t always the answer. I suffered for over a year unable to recover from the norovirus. It was debilitating and let a whole lot of anxiety into my brain. After western medicine had told me that “this was my new normal” I switched to a naturopath. Although I was eating mostly paleo, 100% dairy free I couldn’t kick the symptoms. An intolerance test with the naturopath revealed that my body couldn’t digest eggs. So the paleo breakfast I was eating every single day was damaging my body. It took a couple months of a 100% egg free diet for the symptoms of inflammation to subside. Today I feel as if I were in your shoes. So to the readers out there who don’t find help with the paleo/gluten fee lifestyle I urge you to get tested.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa - I’m glad this lifestyle is working well for you. I tried it at the beginning of the year and while I did feel good while on it, it became too restrictive for me, and the moment I ate sugar or wheat as a very occasional treat, it took me a week to get back on track.

    One thing to be careful about is the term “gluten free”. When eating crackers, etc. that are gluten free, the substitute they use for wheat in these are often times worse than wheat and can spike your blood sugar higher than actual sugar. This is something Dr. Davis talks about in Wheat Belly. “Gluten Free” is such a fad these days and people think that eating gluten free cracker, pretzels, cakes, etc is ok when it is not and unless they have celiac, eating the original version is actually better. You talked a lot about “gluten free”, so I didn’t want people to think that it is ok to eat any kind of gluten free product.

    Your quote from Maya Angelou is one of my favorites, among others of hers. If only it were that easy when it comes to food (coming from someone who has struggled with her weight and relationship with food since I was a pre-teen).ReplyCancel

  • Caroline’s Big Girl Rainbow Room » styleberry BLOG - […] to just that. My creativity was never dormant. It was still alive. I had just used it all to create my Paleo-ish kitchen. Food got all my energy. & back then, that was ok. I had something new to learn about and […]ReplyCancel

  • Kristina - Thanks for the interesting and informative article, I can’t wait to check out the links for more reading! I have been buying spiralized courgette at my local food store but I see you make your own- do you recommend a particular tool? Thanks for your awesome blog and positivity Shawna!!ReplyCancel

  • Kris -

    This is exactly why I don’t get advice from “experts” who don’t do/analyze real research and instead write books for profit.

    I’m an agronomist for a large research university. So maybe my point of view is biased, as I support GMOs because the science supports their safety. And while I don’t have a medical degree, I prefer to get my nutrition advice from true experts who dedicate their lives to research that will better our knowledge of nutrition. I don’t need a for-profit book to find the most scientifically valid information. I go straight to the source – the science. This is just my opinion and I probably won’t change yours. But I decided to give you a different perspective of how I feel about alternative medicine from inside the higher ed research institution system.

    Good luck.ReplyCancel

  • The Best Hot Chocolate | the Dairy Free, Gluten Free, Vitamix kind » styleberry BLOG - […] year, when I made all my big food changes, what I missed the most was a hot creamy beverage. I used to live for lattes. Weaning off them was […]ReplyCancel

  • Amy Renea - Hi Shawna! I have been dabbling in something similar fo the past month or so….mainly following THM (trim, healthy, mama). There is a strong focus on whole foods, no sugar, no wheat (though healthy sprouted carbs, quinoa, etc are used). I have definitely noticed changes and twice when I ate white products, I felt horrible for 24 hours. I was honestly shocked. I don’t think the week or two without white bread would have been enough time to DEVELOP a sensitivity….but there’s definitely was one there. I am looking forward to a doughnut date (in the future), but can honestly say I do not really want candy anymore thanks to some healthy coconut oil “candy” that THM encourages. I never thought I would be able to eat like this and even errand this post when you originally rote thinking there was no way “I” could ever go that far. Now in retrospect, I AM going that far (though I am still including some dairy, such as plain Greek yogurt and cottage cheese). Anyway…would love to hang out with you again someday and chat food!!ReplyCancel

It’s been almost eight years since I first picked up a fancy camera.

It’s been even longer than that since I first wrote on this blog.

& all the while, the dots have felt so disconnected. I keep saying that phrase, “connect the dots.” It’s one of my favorites. I love wrestling with making sense of the puzzle. Why? When? How? (in a much more exasperated tone than I can type with letters that show up on a screen.)

But the struggle to make sense of it all, for someone who really needs to have a plan, is real.

styleberry copyright_22 I’ve spent a lot of the last several years being quiet. Quiet here, and in my real life. Being a homebody, or spending time with just my kids in the forest. It’s been great for all of us, and I think allowing so much of the noise that controls my life some space to breathe is helping me connect these dots. Letting books and nature into my head, simultaneously, has been so good. But lately, every single day, my hands reach for one thing:

The camera.

My eyes squint. I study the light. I tilt my head. & I see something that inspires me.

I have such a love hate relationship with my camera. I love her and despise her. She means work and she means play. & understanding these “dots” and how I sit with the path I have taken has been a big wrestling match. Business vs. Pleasure.

styleberry copyright_19 Seven years ago I got my first dslr and I really enjoyed it. I played. I learned. I was at a place in my life where I was about to give up my first big girl job, for my husband’s career, and it was scary. So what did I do? I dove into art. An interesting coincidence (?) that I never picked up on until this week.

I started my color consulting business and took pictures along the way. & then, with no more corporate job (and no real desire for one anymore) and everyone talking in my ear, I let myself turn that new love of photography into a business. If people would pay me, I should get paid. (right?!!) & in one fell swoop, I went from loving the art to loathing it. Pretty darn quickly.

I loved taking pictures! (well, some pictures…)

But I hated sitting at the computer.

I loved dreaming up ideas for images!

But I sat and compared myself to everyone else & got increasingly frustrated that I couldn’t take my version of their idea and get what was in my head out of my camera.

I loved that people loved my work!

But there I was. At the computer again. Download, cull, edit, deliver.

& It stole my joy.

So I put the camera down.

& eventually, I finally got to have my first baby. & still had that expensive camera. & I let my guilt for having nice equipment and not making any money with it, totally kill that joy I got from making pictures. For a VERY long time. How dare I let myself spend so much on a camera and lens and computer and software if I am not even going to do what I promised to do with it? What will people think if I just give it all up? Who am I if I don’t follow through on my business plan? I am NOT a quitter! So much shaming. Coming from no one but myself.

I wish I could have known then what I know now: I just really like to make stuff. Give me a tool, I’ll learn it. If I like it, I’ll use it. A lot. & if I love it. Well. Try not to over do it. Seek joy, not a business.

styleberry copyright_20 styleberry copyright_17 Today I can step back and see the clearer picture. It tells the whole story, which really comes down to the fact that I do really like taking pictures. I love printing them. & even more than that, I ADORE hanging them on my walls to enjoy. My photographic art makes my home MY home. I love to decorate above all else. & to do so with my own images is what creates my personal brand of magic.

Had I never had a business, I would’ve never bought a fancy camera or have acquired the level of knowledge I have to do what I like to do with images. Had I never wrestled with starting a business vs. being home with my kids, my conviction to stay home may not be as solid. Had I not had this art form to capture the precious story in my home, that ONLY I could capture in my way, I would not have some of my most treasured work.

styleberry copyright_21 But I didn’t need to make it a business. I let my marketing mind take over & create a niche market, focusing so hard on one aspect of creativity that I let the rest slide. & I don’t think that’s healthy for a creative soul. When you like to make stuff, it’s never just one kind of thing. Maybe it is for a successful photographer, but for me, my heart and hands need to make more than pictures.

Will I ever have a photography business again? Definitively, No.

Will I ever stop taking pictures? No way!!

But the pictures I did make, and continue to make, tug at my heartstrings. I don’t take them for anyone but me. They are the story of my experience, because I got to be there. I got to freeze the moment of joy, amidst the sea of hardships, and I get to hang on to that. Maybe, someday, even share it. Maybe my kids won’t care. & that’s ok. I have enjoyed the process & there is something about what I see that I’m often called to photograph. So I listen. It’s all part of the story. & as I keep feeling the intense urge to use my camera again, in a way I haven’t felt in a long time, I am really curious and excited to see what I can make next.

My photography is a big part of my creative life. Business or not. (But mostly not.) It’s one dot on my creative map, leading me to and from everything else that brings me creative joy. From the kitchen to the sidewalk to the forest and everything in between.

I am a photographer & I want to document this colorful life. So I will. But I’m not stopping there…

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  • ashley sheehan - I have followed your blog for several several years, and this post of yours spoke to me SO much. I could verbatim say these exact words – I started a quasi business and have stopped for same reasons. I love taking pictures and documenting my family and that’s where it stops now. Thank you for sharingReplyCancel

  • Laura Blair - I admire your photography and eye for beautiful light. I wish you would take my family’s pics!!ReplyCancel

  • Angie - You’ll likely never know how much I needed this…ReplyCancel

Big Magic.

Have you read it? If you haven’t, run. Buy it. I made the mistake of waiting for it to arrive at the library and one chapter from the end, I amazon prime’d it so I could remove the thirty sticky notes from the library book and switch it to permanent underlines in my very own copy. I want to quote every chapter, because there was something in that beautiful mess of words that spoke right down to my core & moved me in a way no book has in a very long time. Call it the Big Magic, call it fate, call it inspiration. I don’t know. But there are so many connected dots and I am so ready to explore them. Some privately, some publicly. But they are THERE. My curiosity is at an all time high and so many parts of this book helped me see that I have my own permission to be right where I am in my own creative shitstorm. It helped me find peace with all those businesses and the ideas I still have and just weave my own way on this winding path I wrote about last time.

“You may spend your whole life following your curiosity and have absolutely nothing to show for it at the end except one thing. You will have the satisfaction of knowing that you passed your entire existence in devotion to the noble human virtue of inquisitiveness.” –Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic

I mean, really. What better gift can I give myself, AND my children, than to live life this very way.

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I’ve determined that my personal path boils down to two things: being curious and making stuff that makes me happy. & somewhere along the way, many years ago, I began to share it. Both here & in my real life. & I loved the community that began to surround me. Not because of the ego boost, but because so many of you have shared with me that you learned something here. You learned something that helped you in some way. & that is just as addictive to me as the creative high. The feeling of being helpful and giving.  Talk about giving meaning to art.

It may not have seemed to fit together until now, but I see it. I see my journey in a whole new way. & I cannot tell you how much relief this book about creativity and inspiration has gifted me.

Are you sold yet?


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In this magic spirit I want to move forward here with a familiar but defined mission. Move forward. Why have I not yet been back here regularly? Time? Energy? Priorities? Yes. But there’s that perfectionist I have been fighting for all my life lurking down inside me that has kept me away. If it’s not right and the story isn’t all there, then I stop.

“Perfectionism stops people from completing their work yes–but even worse, it often stops people from beginning their work.” 


& then she talked about perfectionism as the “high end haute couture version of fear…in fancy shoes and a mink coat, pretending to be elegant when actually it’s just terrified.” 

Am I (is she) preaching to a choir yet? Social media has warped our perception of beautiful realities so much that I feel this is so so imperative for me to bring to light here. & make it part of my blog mission moving forward. WTF is perfect, anyway? (Sidenote: I LOVED this article I read recently.)

So here’s how I am defining this blog/happy place of mine from here on out:

My mission is to change the conversation between mothers (& makers), as we work to intentionally build each other up. I want to foster a place of empathy, so we can talk about where we stand and why & share feely, respectfully. I want this to be a place where we do not forget to acknowledge struggle, but always seek to find the joy. I want to create a source of honest inspiration, so we can learn from our different choices & help better define why we each do what we do, and find ways to do better. To be better. & to encourage those around us with genuine energy & a realistic spirit. 

You never know how what you choose to share, and how you choose to share it, may change someone’s day. 

& as always, I aim to make the complicated simple & inspire you to GO and DO. In style. & as warmly and positively as I can. This is my little creative haven…where pretty meets practical. 

& because this is the internet, and I’ve seen my fair share of less than pleasantries…I just have to include what is quite possibly my favorite passage of the entire book. Because no one, I mean NO one, can ignore a perfectly placed f-bomb:

“If people enjoy what you created, terrific. If people ignore what you’ve created, too bad. If people misunderstand what you’ve created, don’t sweat it. And what if people absolutely hate what you’ve created? What if people attack you with savage vitriol, and insult your intelligence, and malign your motives, and drag your good name through the mud? Just smile sweetly and suggest–as politely as you possibly can–that they go make their own fucking art. Then stubbornly continue making yours.” –Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic

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Cheers to THAT! Now hop to it. Your magic is waiting…go make something! Even if it sucks. Pick up your camera, your paint brush, your glue gun, your laptop, your spatula. Life’s too short to wait to make something that will make you (and your kids!) smile, today!!
  • Cristin - yes yes and yes to all the things ; )
    so many feelings about this one.
    vulnerability is beautiful…I am on a similar spiritual journey.
    Thank you.ReplyCancel

  • Kaley - Yes!!!!! I am obsessed with Big Magic, and love the new definition of your blog. So well said!

    And welcome back, so happy you are posting again. :)ReplyCancel

  • Carina - Happy to see you back! I’m in my final year of residency and a mom of a 4 year old daughter and expecting a baby boy soon. I constantly struggle with the time for creativity and creating in the setting of a crazy work schedule (even though I recognize that it makes me a happier person and better mom.) I’m excited to read this book for inspiration. Thanks for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • Jessica - Okay, Amazon Prime, here I come :) I’ve been waiting for my name to come up on the hold list at the library – but I wondered if this was a book I would rather own anyway…so I could mark it up, refer back to it, etc. I think I’ve convinced me it is. Off I go.ReplyCancel

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  • Marian - So great to read you like this: enthusiastic – positive – energized- determined.
    The flow of energy poped out of my screen.
    Although I tend to hold back on books that look like a have it all answer, I am keeping this on my “coming soon” list because I do struggle the same struggles you do -if I understood well that is.
    Your mission just assured me that you are indeed the kind of person I love love love to follow and read on the net. Thank you for been here and sharing from your heart <3ReplyCancel

  • Amy Renea - I am happy you are BACK!ReplyCancel

  • Lisa - Ugh, I need to get this book. With baby #3 coming in February, I’m finding myself in such a weird spot. Excited to have a new baby coming but also anticipating all the hard work to come in the next year. I have the basics of pregnancy, labor & delivery, recovery, & caring for a newborn down, so I’m not immersing myself in all things baby as I did with the first two (with number 2 I spent a lot of time preparing for a VBAC & getting excited about all things boy). This time I’m just finding myself STUCK in this weird limbo. Not wanting to start anything (or even THINK about starting anything) since I feel like it will all just be taken away from me come February. But I’ve been in full time mommy mode for so long now, that I can feel myself urgently needing more. And I just don’t know if I can wait. But what does that look like? What does it look like to be a mom of 3 kids under 4 AND have something for myself that makes my heart happy in a way that raising my kids just can’t. Can I have both or do I just need to put my “mom jeans” back on & wait…??ReplyCancel

Are you here? Or is it just me?

I don’t know what it is. But I am stuck. I can’t move. I can’t make. I can’t even start. It’s scary and there is no plan and I have no idea where to begin. I don’t know where I am going. There is so much I want to learn but I cannot seem to think of anything, all at the same time.

Where do I start? How do I make the first move? I mean, why should I? I’m busy. I have a house to maintain. There are dishes to do, laundry to fold, and a lawn to mow. How dare I take time to make something, that, in the words of Elizabeth Gilbert, “matters enormously, and it doesn’t matter at all.”

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Are you with me?

Who I am as a person has always been more than my daily tasks. At my core I am a maker, a creative, and a lover of color and craft. During this quieter season of “daily essentials” I have continued on my path as an admirer of beautiful work, but I have not been the one creating it. & it’s chipping away at my soul. There is something in me that is begging to be released. My creativity is killing me, and pushing me forward all at the same time.

I recently went back to counseling again, which I have always talked about here, as a positive part of my life. I will continue to believe that there is not an ounce of shame, but rather great strength, in seeking out counseling to improve managing our lives and working on becoming better people. (note to my fellow military spouses, counseling is a completely covered benefit under Military One Source!!) I was recently listening to Brene Brown’s Rising Strong on a long road trip I took with my kids, and constantly heard stories of her and her therapist’s journey. Why can’t we welcome professional help openly & deem it a sign of great strength? Don’t we all want to be better? Do better? Well I do. & what I know is that my counselors through the years have helped me connect the dots in ways I couldn’t myself. & recently, my creative block has been a big part of my work in therapy. To be more specific, why am I NOT being creative? How is this impacting my life, and the lives of the other people under my roof that have to deal with my pent up creativity? & probably, most importantly, do my talents have to generate income, for me to believe they are a valuable part of my life? 

That’s a biggie right there. Did you see it?

Do my talents have to generate income, for me to believe they are a valuable part of my life? 

Well, I know the answer. But it was really hard to admit it. & sometimes, it IS really hard to do something and deem the work valuable if it only serves you. But here’s what I am learning: it doesn’t only serve me. My creative work makes me shine. Like, from the inside, because it makes me so happy. It gives me an outlet that I don’t have while being a mom or a wife or a yogi or anything else. It gives me a sense of self that is greater than my more routine roles. It may not be paid work right now (and that is ok!!) but when I am ready, and find the path that makes sense in the future, it probably could be.

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I think this is one of the great problems that we moms who leave the work force to raise our kids run into–what deserves our time and attention, aside from our great big job with no paycheck? What defines us, beyond being a mother? and a wife? and a chef and lawn mower and house cleaner? You know what I mean. What makes us happy, and puts us in to that incredible state of flow that Csikszentmihalyi wrote about. I remember reading his book in college and spending all my time in the art studio wondering if this feeling, the one I get when I am creating, is what he meant.

See, this creating. It’s always in there. Yearning, longing. It must find its way out.

I have all these ideas for businesses and working and generating income, but I am going to just let it be for now. I am just going to make. & what comes of that, I don’t yet know–but something will. Because this is the journey. It’s part of my story. Like this blog outlet that I created almost ten years ago while I had a “real job” and was earning a great salary (which, thanks to saving, allows me the opportunity to stay home with my kids), but left me feeling completely unfulfilled.  Then the color consulting business, that turned into a photography business that turned back into just a blog and then babylogs, before I stepped away & hit pause. It’s not all for nothing. & after this podcast (episode #1) socked me in the gut, I am even more convinced. Each part has brought me to this place of discomfort. & maybe, as Brene Brown says, it’s this face down moment when I can see the clearest.

& all I can see, is color and paint and patterns and textures and creation.

So I went to my favorite coffee shop and finally dove into a calligraphy kit that I ordered two years ago. & it felt SO good. I had a moment of flow in my day, and you know what?

Everyone around me felt my joy. & my peace.

It’s not just for me. It makes me the best me.

& everyone benefits from that.

Beautiful lettering above by Stately Type, one of my favorite IG accounts and an awesome pair of makers. We love their work & t-shirts!

  • Natalie - I am definitely with you in the place of being stuck creatively! I am a part-time working mom and I always have an internal struggle between spending my time on creative activities that feed my soul and other things that I really should be doing to keep a clean home and keep up with my paperwork. I often feel stretched in too many directions, then when I do have time for creating I feel stuck and don’t know what to do! Glad to have you back blogging occasionally! I have been reading your blog since you were pregnant with Caroline :)ReplyCancel

  • Aja - I relate to this so much. You are not the only one here! I realized a few years ago that at my core, I am a Creative. I may not be an expert painter, seamstress, crafter, photographer, etc… but I love trying my hand at any and all of these things and creating something beautiful. It makes me so happy and feel alive inside. I’ve also struggled with using my talents to generate income… it’s tough. But I wholeheartedly agree that we need to give ourselves the grace to just create for the pure act of it.ReplyCancel

  • Meghan - It is so hard to find that fulfillment as a person when we can be so stuck in the weeds as a mother, wife, general caretaker. It’s definitely something I really struggle with. But I am so happy to see you blogging again :)ReplyCancel

  • Lacie - This is probably one of the posts I relate to you the most about. :) As a tomboy is type of girl, I have always struggled with making “pretty” things. I am an engineer by schooling and I always feel like the technical part of my brain and the creative part argue. “You cannot go sew, you have dishes and the floor is dirty…” etc. Its sooooo counterproductive! I get frustrated and discouraged. You are a rock star and will get back into it. I appreciate your post because you have always inspired me with your pretty things and creativity and seeing you blog about feeling the same way I do, makes me feel more normal.

    Thanks girl! :)ReplyCancel

  • shan'tel - I love that quote, thanks for sharing it!ReplyCancel

  • Carrie - I’m glad this post ended with you doing the calligraphy, as I was going to write something to the effect of “just start somewhere” since that’s really the hardest part. I’m a single mom with a full time demanding job at a startup and I really love it all. But I realized that I wasn’t making any time to create and losing a bit of myself in the process. So I signed up for a ceramics class – one night a week I have childcare arrangements and I just create pottery for 3 glorious hours. It’s hard and different and wonderful (even when the first several weeks left me with some crappy random “pieces”). I could have never realized what a difference that time would make, but, man, it’s mood altering for me and for my outlook. Glad to see you’re releasing this part of yourself, too, and just keep going :)ReplyCancel

  • The Magic. » styleberry BLOG - […] Have you read it? If you haven’t, run. Buy it. I made the mistake of waiting for it to arrive at the library and one chapter from the end, I amazon prime’d it so I could remove the thirty sticky notes from the library book and switch it to permanent underlines in my very own copy. I want to quote every chapter, because there was something in that beautiful mess of words that spoke right down to my core & moved me in a way no book has in a very long time. Call it the Big Magic, call it fate, call it inspiration. I don’t know. But there are so many connected dots and I am so ready to explore them. Some privately, some publicly. But they are THERE. My curiosity is at an all time high and so many parts of this book helped me see that I have my own permission to be right where I am in my own creative shitstorm. It helped me find peace with all those businesses and the ideas I still have and just weave my own way on this winding path I wrote about last time. […]ReplyCancel

Back to weekly posting??! I don’t know…I’m not going to jinx it! :)

almond joy frappe by styleberry_4 Three weeks ago, I had to have surgery on my wrist. There was a giant bump on it and while it had bugged me for a while, it recently got to the point where I couldn’t do chaturungas or weight bear on it for planks. I had to do something about it. I need yoga like I need air to breathe & it was getting in the way. I was even struggling to chop during my food prep. So I had surgery. & I completely underestimated the blow that the recovery would take to my overall productivity, particularly in the kitchen. I prepped a bit before surgery but figured it’d be no big deal. My surgeon even assured me that on a scale of 1-10, my husband’s cases were a 10 & mine was maybe a 2. So seriously, NBD. (I think the lesson that I learned was that nothing, and I mean NOTHING is “a big deal” when you are married to a heart surgeon…gushing blood? NBD. It’s not coming from your aorta. Get over it. A little bump? Just “pop it out.” HA. HA.) Well, the ganglion cyst I had removed ended up being the size of a silver dollar–so no small little invasion to my tiny wrist. I’m still splinted and immobilized, which makes food prep–a huge part of my life–a challenge. Enter: smoothies.

almond joy frappe by styleberry_1 Over the summer I went home to visit my parents and used their Vitamix daily. I had long convinced myself that my eleven year old blender that I received as a wedding gift was FINE. Totally fine. But then…I used a Vitamix. Oh, it really is as awesome as every lucky duck who had one told me it would be. & I just couldn’t work it into our budget right now. But my incredibly generous parents decided to surprise me with one (this is the one I love!) & since the day it arrived, I don’t think I’ve used it any less than twice a day. It is AWESOME. It has literally saved me during this recovery!! So I have been experimenting. :)

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My dear friend Dr. Christine Maren (are you following her blog & IG? You should be! She is a fantastic nutrition educator, and the person to whom I credit for my major family food overhaul) introduced me to this amazing vegan peanut butter shake a few weeks ago. It sure hit the spot. But she says all sorts of stuff about peanut butter and toxins and blah blah blah (Sorry Christine, nutrition is a value, but not a passion of mine so I will leave the enthusiasm & science to you!) and I started altering it to my taste. If you knew me back in Texas, then surely you saw me sleep deprived and holding a Frapuccino, which I downed almost daily. It’s been probably two years since I last had one & I haven’t found a yummy drink to replace it with, that isn’t loaded with sugar and junk. Until NOW! Is it a paleo frapuccino? A vegan frapuccino? I don’t know. I don’t like labels. & apparently you can only buy frapuccinos at starbucks, so I know it’s a whole lot healthier than those! I don’t always drink coffee in the morning anymore, so often I’ll whip one of these up around lunchtime with a little snack. So. Yum. I’ll call it the Almond Joy Frappé.

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Please note: we eat a pretty low sugar diet, and I know my tastebuds have definitely changed since we moved toward what I like to call “Paleo-ish” eating. (More on that ASAP!!) I cook with natural sweeteners and very rarely use refined sugar. So I am now very sensitive to things that are sweet. This will not be super sweet if you are used to & love a sugary frappucino, but it is worth a try until you rework those taste buds. Those of you already eating mostly Dairy Free, Sugar Free & Gluten Free will hopefully love this as much as I do!

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Almond Joy Frappé | Gluten Free, Dairy Free, Naturally Sweetened


  • 1/2 cup cold brew concentrate**
  • 1/4 cup filtered water
  • 1 1/2 tablespoon raw cacao powder (a bit more, if I am being totally honest!)
  • 1 tablespoon chia seeds
  • 3 soft dates, pitted
  • 2 tablespoons almond butter
  • 1 tsp coconut oil
  • 1/2 tsp vanilla extract
  • 1 tablespoon unsweetened coconut flakes
  • 3-4 handfuls of ice


  1. Blend all ingredients except the coconut and ice in the blender. A high powered blender like a Vitamix is the best option. I use the smoothie setting on my Vitamix.
  2. Blend coconut flakes and ice. I use the smoothie setting a second time.
  3. & enjoy!


**note: not ready to drink cold brew coffee. You want to use the concentrate, which you typically dilute 1:1 with water. I get mine at my favorite cold brew coffee shop, but you can buy concentrate at the grocery store. You could also make your own, which I used to do with my beloved Philz coffee.

You may wish to increase the coffee flavor by subbing the 1/4 cup of water with additional cold brew concentrate.

I like to use coconut flakes instead of shreds, as it leaves a little left to “chew” in the actual smoothie–kind of like the bits in a java chip frapuccino.

Now I wonder if I could come up with a pumpkin version…!!! ;)

Gosh. Thank you all for the warm welcome back. I worried for a time that my intentional absence would leave me with no one left when I finally returned–but here you are! & you have been so kind & understanding of the choice to walk away for awhile. & I can tell you–I am truly so so excited to be back here. Like, my mind is racing with ideas. & I cannot wait to write!

Before I dive too far into any one thing, I think it’s important to address what has brought me to this place of peace. I have overhauled our life in some really drastic ways in the last two years, but shutting out the internet and welcoming books (real books! like, with pages!!) has probably been the biggest positive shift I chose to make.

It all started in the dead of winter. The holidays had come & gone. I was constantly exhausted. I desperately sought time alone and the only place I ever found it was at the gym. The problem with: I was working really, really hard when I was alone at the gym. So that time to be creative or sit with a book or catch up with a friend was still missing. There was still no downtime. Add my early bird (as in, 5:30/6am riser, neeeedy son) and my night owl (9pm to bed, one more snuggle daughter) and life was just not working. I was spending several hours after the last one finally went to sleep piddling around the house, mentally making a tally of all that I wanted to do and all that I was too spent to actually do. It was defeating and destructive to my sense of accomplishment. I mean…my house is my job and it’s a disaster…and I have nothing else…and…WTF did I DO today…and…I am getting dumber by the day because I am not learning ANYTHING! (running on repeat through my head) That’s not good self talk. So after I checked the internet for the bazillionth time, seeking escape from my messy living room, I went to bed about midnight and was then awakened, while it was still dark outside, by a child who just wouldn’t sleep another second. (As if that was anything new.) What could I do? How could I make this better?

& so I brainstormed. I remember a part of one of my favorite books that I read years and years ago (remember, my first one is my sleeper–so back then when I read books) and knew that was part of my answer. There is a particular section in Steady Days where the topic of being rushed comes up. Nothing good ever happens when mama is rushed. & my mornings were so rushed. I was too tired to give my son what he needed at the early hour when he first woke up. I was hitting the snooze on him, which made me more and more agitated with each thing he did to try to rouse me before my preferred 7am wake up time. & mornings suuuucked. I got up at the last possible second, tried to get the kids ready while I got ready, so we could get to school on time and it just sucked. I felt like a bad mom. I was not nice. They were struggling to make sense of my inability to manage the morning. & I knew I wanted to be better. So I did something crazy.

I decided to become a morning person.

[Find a Sunnier Place, the gorgeous art that hangs in my office, by the talented Emily Jeffords]

Now, those of you who already are morning people are probably snickering…it took you this long to discover the beauty of a silent morning?! But for those of us night owls–we just cannot even fathom lights out at 9:30 pm. FORGET an alarm that goes off before six. You craaaazy. No. Thank. You.

But I did it.

It started as an experiment. I set my alarm for 5:45am. I was in bed by 9/930 (painful!! So much time left in the day to do stuff!!) & then I made myself get up early. Then the second week, I set it for 5:30. By the third week, I was up at 5:15, going to bed sometime before ten, and often getting a whole 45 minutes to sit on the couch in silence and read before my kids got up. Or shovel the driveway, getting a bit of exercise in the silent darkness. There is really something beautiful about a quiet house in the morning. & it feels very different than a quiet house at night. The transformation that happened when I got to take care of me (or my home) for just a little bit, before I had to take care of someone else, was life changing.

It turns out that my early bird boy is perfectly happy co-existing with me in the morning. He just wants someone up with him while he plays with his trains. & so that’s what we do. I get up, get dressed, take a little me time to read & then when he gets up, I start chores. Often, I have breakfast made before we have to go up & start the [highly unpleasant] task of waking the night owl. That’s never fun. But it’s a whole lot easier when I am already awake & have plenty of time to let her hit snooze within my easy morning.

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[image by Kate L Photography]

Back when I first started this, I definitely relied on my hot cup of coffee to start my day. & often, the thought of my favorite mug warming my hands and the smell of it was enough to get me going. Since, (& I will elaborate separately) I have cut out most of my caffeine intake and no longer drink coffee first thing in the morning. Outrageous, I know. WHO am I? I tell you…it’s been a very, very transformative couple of years. :) & it feels great.

& beyond the morning routine change, the ability to keep up with the news and politics (which I really enjoy!) and the reintroduction of real books has nourished me in a way that was lacking. I always have something to talk about, beyond my kids, because I am always learning something. That’s part of my puzzle that can’t be forgotten–my own personal growth. I found that reading on the iPad just didn’t do it for me (no screen, please!), but I also didn’t want to buy books, because I’d always feel bad, & like I was wasting money, if I ended up not liking a book and abandoning it. Again, making myself feel like a failure, and not allowing myself to move on to something I may really enjoy, before finishing the last. Thus, leaving me stuck with a shitty book that I would never finish and nothing on the horizon in nourishing reading-land. Deciding what is and isn’t worth your time to read is just another one of those empowering moments. Not finishing everything you start, because you decide it’s not worth your time, is powerful. It’s owning your precious time & filling it with value–NOT you being a failure for giving up something that is not worth your time. Important lesson I learned, right there.

So I put together a list of what I wanted to learn about & read, and requested books at the library. (the LIBRARY!!) Why I had not thought to get books for ME at the library, when it was a weekly part of our routine for the last five years ANYWAY, is beyond me. But it gave me the freedom to get what I wanted and make the conscious choice to let it go if it was just not working for me. Recently, I have started checking out audiobooks using the app Overdrive (where you can access the library’s selection of books, then download them on to your iPhone for a while & listen while driving without an internet connection, or while doing chores, exercising at the gym, etc.) It’s been really great & I highly recommend it. Some of my favorites: Rising Strong, The Magic of Tidying Up, The Nesting Place, Wheat Belly, It Starts with Food, The Plantpower Way, All Joy & No Fun, The Creative Family…and each deserves its own discussion. But for now–if you need some recommendations, there you go! :)

Oh, and no Facebook on my iPhone. Ever. IG? Sure, but that’s because I keep it private and use it to really interact with those I care about & am inspired by. It’s a very controlled feed. But Facebook? Maybe a few minutes a day, on my desktop only. & hide, hide, hide those on the feed that are time-suckers, anger inducers. I limit Facebook, too, to really the only people I care about and am inspired by. & a small number of groups that I participate in & seek encouragement from.

Finding time to read and find quiet and start the day on my terms has been a huge part of my sanity. & Mornings are so much happier this way! Every morning? No. But there sure are a whole lot more pleasant ones than there used to be! styleberry copyright_13

[image by Kate L Photography]

As a side note, you are going to start seeing some general housekeeping around here. Some editing & restructuring to make things flow a bit better, so my site is easier to navigate. One exciting thing I am working on is an Amazon Shop that will be my own personal curation of all of my favorite things. Hopefully I can, once & for all, rid us of the broken links that are sitting in My Baby List post! I am so excited to have everything I love in one easy-to-find place! I don’t have time to blog everything that I love & use, but you will soon find my favorites (books, cook books, kids literature, toys, games, kids gear, kitchen gadgets etc.) all in one place. It will also serve as an affiliate program to keep my site financially viable, but free of sponsorships and ads, which is just the way I like it. Look for the Amazon Shop link in the sidebar, for my ongoing collection of stuff I love, and that makes my life easier! Happy Shopping!

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  • Cilla - Yay! So happy to have you back. Everything you’ve done sounds like what I’ve been trying so hard to get to. Waking early…rest…food/health (whole30?)…and books! Rising strong is amazing! I love anything brene brown! Anywho, but you are actually accomplishing these things and kicking butt! Yay! So proud of you! I have been struggling and am sure that, as always, I will be be inspired by you :)ReplyCancel

  • Lauren - I smiled when I saw your post show up on my blog feed today. I’m looking forward to reading more about your life changes!ReplyCancel

  • Denise - So glad you are back, and just when I needed this bit of inspiration! I have been struggling lately. Finding time for me, time to keep my home on track, for work, and somehow cramming all of that time into the night while my babies sleep and barely getting the sleep I so desperately need. I am ripped from sleep every morning and not happy about it at all. Every day I say tomorrow will be better, but it rarely ever is. I’ve been a night owl all my life, even as a child. I’m completely intrigued that you made the switch to mornings and hope to try this myself. I know the few times I’ve been able to rise before my kids that time has been precious. I even feel like I am able to concentrate better and feel more accomplished those days. Thank you for taking the time to post about this, it has made me reconsider the way I do things and want to push for something better.ReplyCancel

  • Kimber C. - YAYYYYYYY!!!!! It makes me oh so happy you are back! I so thoroughly enjoy your blog and still refer friends and myself to it on occasion or look back through old posts I remember you put up about questions I had. Seriously I love you and your blog and I loved this post too! I absolutely am going to start trying to do this!ReplyCancel

  • Lisa - So excited to have you back in Blogland!! You have no idea how much I needed to read this post today. As I sit here reading…late…like midnight late, I think of all the changes that need to happen to make our house a HAPPY home. And they all start with me and my reactions to the stresses of motherhood and life in general. So, tomorrow I too will try to become a morning person…and read more…and smile more. Thank you for all of your inspiration and opening yourself and your family up to the rest of us mamas in the trenches.ReplyCancel

  • Kate - So glad you’re back! Completely understand the hiatus. They are much needed sometimes. Can’t wait to see what you cook up.
    And thanks for the book recs, you always have great ones!ReplyCancel

  • donya - Reading this at 6am, I can SO relate. I use my mornings a little different, catching up on the internet, doing some photography work, so I can put it to the side the moment my kids wake up. But I’ve also noticed that I’m much more adept at handling the morning chaos if I’ve woken myself up first, which is why I continually choose to do this stuff in the early morning rather than the late evening. And I love that cup of coffee. Though I’m interested to hear about you removal of caffeine!ReplyCancel

  • Rachael - So glad to see you blogging again! But completely understand the hiatus. You have been missed!ReplyCancel

  • Andrea - I was so excited to see your blog post pop up in my feed. I love reading and I am happy you are back. I am still struggling with the adjustment of 2 kids and finding my own time. My youngest is 1 year old and I just can’t make it all work. We live in a small rental and I find myself constantly last on the list. I am so encouraged by your post and ready to take back my mornings! Thank you so much for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • Brooke - I so appreciate your thoughtful and deliberate approach to life and the joy that comes with it! While our lives are different, I love to learn from you and your perspective. Thanks for the inspiration and welcome back!!ReplyCancel

  • Melissa - I found your blog while you were taking your break and I couldn’t stop reading it. I found it as I was looking for any information I could find on photography, and then I loved your style of writing and approach to life and openness about motherhood, etc. Anyways, I kept your site in my RSS feed so I could someday go back and read more of your blog and now you’re writing again! I’m so happy to have such an inspiring person in my feed. Thank you and I look forward to following your journey.ReplyCancel

  • Aarti - Welcome back! Thank you for sharing! Because no matter what your posts say, I always think of you as so put together in home, parenting, personal life….even as I know being put together perfectly is a myth. So in your sharing you give me inspiration that I, too, can make changes and can try again to become a morning person!ReplyCancel

  • Danielle - I am so glad to see that you are back and blogging! I discovered your blog through your fertility struggle stories when I was researching my own arcuate uterus and fertility challenges. I loved your stories, your writing and your inspiration. I couldn’t get enough of it. Despite your not blogging at the time, I subscribed, hoping some day you would.

    Your blog is such a valuable resource and I’m excited to see what you have been up to. :-)ReplyCancel

  • Sarah - I have read your posts for years and used your site as a resource for cloth diapering & baby things when we welcomed our first. So, happy to see posts again that I can relate to once again, now on the toddler side and stay at home mama side of things. Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • carrie - And another post?! I can’t believe my eyes! This is great – lots of great tips and the gentle reminders that changes takes TIME and intention. Sounds like things are going so well :)ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca - I just found your blog and am so happy that I did. I loved reading this article and the changes you’ve made in your routine. Very inspiring. I feel like I had to go “dark” for a little while too. Cut out my internet use and phone use etc. I ran a successful Etsy shop for two years and it exhausted me. I took some time out to restructure how I spend my time so that I’m a better mom (i hope I’m a better one anyway!:) I feel happier and as though I enjoy my kids and my days more. Just started a blog and am loving it!
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  • Michelle R - Like so many others, I was excited to see two posts pop up in such short order! You’re back, yay! I found you when I was pregnant with my first and I learned so much from your blog (my first was a Fuzzibunz baby thanks to you!) cloth diapering, homemade baby food, etc. Now, number two is on the way and I can’t wait to dive back into your blog with you and see where it takes us both! I understand well the struggle for “what else.” Baby #2 has taken it’s sweet time joining us, derailing my plans to get back in to the workforce. I’d love to hear where your journey takes you and share my experiences as well. Welcome back!ReplyCancel

  • Lea - Thank you for this post, you have encouraged me to wake earlier too. I did it like you mentioned….5:45, then 5:30, then 5:15…after 2 weeks, I’m beginning to get a hang of it.

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